Jease! becoming a mother is tiring! I know what you might think and I know I’m not supposed to think this way, because it’s considered to be unhealthy, but the fact is there are plenty of things I wish I could go back in time and do them again in a different way. I wish I hadn’t sent that postcard to my valentine crush, who happens to be one of the popular kids of the school.
I wish I would have been more gentle to myself when I was trying to get pregnant, I wish I had gone easy on my husband during this period too, but most of all I was I had someone to tell me what I’m about to reveal to you before I finally got pregnant with my daughter.
Come to think of it, there are tons of things I would wish to go back in time and tell mine before pregnancy/baby self. And truth be said I have pretty much a lot about how to be a good parent on this life change event.
I wish though I hadn’t learned them the hard way with a lot of pressure on and constantly thinking that I am going to screw up things with my baby. In fact, with the knowledge, I have now I would definitely.
Every single decision I have made was the result of high-pressure circumstances that had I to handle. Naturally, my goal was always to take a decision for the best interest of my newborn and that with the little recourses I had.
If you are going to be a parent very soon or you just had your first child let me take you on a tour of what you should and should not pressure yourself about
If you think you have unsolved issues, it’s mandatory to go to the therapist and have an handle on them, except that every single issue you have to come back haunting you during your pregnancy and post-birth period, if that means going through medication, just do it, otherwise this may have an impact on you, and ricochet on your relationship, the way you look to your child.
Enjoy Your Body before becoming a mother
Giving birth will change your body forever, and I am not saying those words lightly, so enjoy your self with your partner, go to the beach and wear those nigh robes you never have time to try on.
Because believe me it will take you a lot of time and persistence on hard training to get back to that model shape you so hardly worked on for the last few years.
Aspiring to do other things other than being a mother is
You should not be embarrassed or think that there is something wrong with if you do not find your self-worth as a mother, and it’s perfectly normal to want to pick up things where you left them as career-wise.
Go out there and start doing what you love, whether it is picking up that novel you did not finish reading or volunteering motherhood is not an obstacle.
Motherhood is an ongoing learning process
It’s absolutely not necessary to learn everything on motherhood or parenting, you are already equipped with the necessary skills. If there is something you should pay attention to is to keep your baby alive, everything else is a learning process that you will learn as your little monster grows up.
You might prefer a certain age of your child than another.
You know you will be absolutely charmed with the baby stage much better than the toddler stage. The husband, however, will be perfect with a toddler and things will come naturally to him as he will be more patient with the picky eating and probably more prepared to tantrums. Again, don’t be hard on yourself and wish you could do the same, give yourself a break and enjoy the moment it’s his child too.
Who knows you might find that stage you were so afraid of is actually the one you like more
You’ll love to spend time with your daughter as a baby and be ache for those days where you could spend the whole day laying around and holding her while sleeping.
You will also discover another stage, the preschool stage where you have to get her ready before the bus arrives get her to take her breakfast and mostly wake up. Then she will be more independent and you can do fun things together.
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Other references on being a parent:
- 4 Reasons Why Maternal Grandmother Is Important for a Child
- Incredible games to play with the kids on a rainy day
- Your Most Burning Questions About Bell And Dax Shepard parenting technics!